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Why did you move on?.

Two weeks and no word from Onuoma, what could the matter be? hehe.

How’re you all doing? Thank you for understanding.

Meeting my stated targets seems to be taking longer than expected not so? I realized that some nitty-gritty details needed to be considered before my store can be up. One of such details is shipping. How do I ship effectively to you when an order is made? There needs to be an arrangement in place with a courier company. Initiating and activating this service tends to have its timelines and apart from this aspect, there’s also the music that’s in the pipeline.

I once stumbled upon an article that had a pictorial depiction of a writer as one surrounded by piles of articles he’d written for his readers and I thought of myself immediately. Lol. Looking at how many articles I’ve written so far, they’re over 100 and counting. It would be nice to focus energy on other things that may interest you all.

So they say that all work and no play make Jack a dull boy. This tends to be my concern of late. Really does all work and no play stifle one up, such that they become a complete bore? How about a scenario where one tends to play a lot and can be deemed to be rather unserious?

In my opinion, I tend to see it from a different angle. The angle of our social backgrounds. Many individuals grew up having little or no social upbringing, with their exposure being later on in life. One could possibly term this set of individuals as being reserved in nature. Then, some have had such exposure right from their teenage years. Since we all, would like to be overtly outgoing let’s not forget that this could be a struggle for a certain few. At the end of it all, it becomes a situation of different strokes for different folks. So that while some people tend to enjoy their “me” time, others tend to be bored with non-activity. I guess being able to strike a balance or knowing what works best for you should be all that matters.

However, I won’t say that this has been my case. I’m a hard worker and sometimes I think I tend to let it override the other side of life. These days, when I find myself having periods of non-activity, I tend to become restless wondering what I should do.

The one question that bugs me is, why do friends move on once they’re married? I can understand that they have a lot of activity that keeps them busy but hey! If all married folks become occupied with activity such that they have no time for their single friends then I guess that a time will come when some single people will be the last ones standing simply because everyone around them is hitched. Although this could be theoretically speaking, you all know that it does have in-depth truth.

I did a small survey and you would never believe the kind of responses I received from the survey. Some explained that newly married ladies prefer to stay away from their single friends so that they don’t lose the attention of their husbands to them. I tend to view this reason as being a bit insecure. A little bird once said, a true lover sets you free to find joy to be yourself. I know some married ladies would be raising their eyebrows at me this minute. This is why this issue intrigues me in a certain sort of way.

Any wholesome relationship should always accommodate the other’s freedom without thinking otherwise or rubbing meaning into it. Every married partner should be able to function as a complete individual irrespective of the bond that exists between the two. The foundation of trust shouldn’t be thrown out the door so soon.

Come to think of it, this isn’t the direction of my post today, as my focus was to lament more on the fact that my married friends seem to have moved on. Onuoma life happened! Yes, I understand, I totally do but it’s not every day that being a loner is fun. Many times I just sleep because when I think of going out all by myself, I shake my head and say no. Go ahead, giggle if you want. Lol.

So married ladies, I guess I speak for some single ladies like myself who find themselves in the same dilemma. Please try to reach out to us. Not every single lady has a personal objective to snatch your partner. Of course, I know that there are a few bad eggs amongst us but do remember those of us that are different and quit wearing that “stay away” sign above your shoulders. Lol.

Take care of yourself.

Bye.

Comments

Binta
May 28, 2022 at 4:08 am

Wooowww Onomsky! So proud of you. Keeping soaring the sky is your starting point.



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