Thank you for your patience whilst I worked through my grief.
Life never prepares us for this aspect. It just occurs.
Many times, we relegate the truth to the back of our minds and choose to hope even when the life of our loved one hangs thinly in the balance. In my case, I recall coming to terms with the “what-if” and staying somewhere quiet to weep. Not because I didn’t have hope, but because it’s been my way of dealing with shock throughout life.
I recall a conversation I once had with my childhood friend. She explained to me what her mum had told her. Her mother had advised her of the importance of always being prepared for the “what-ifs of life”. As she sat there telling me, I smiled because, as young as I was then, it had also been my nature.
Although at that tender age, I didn’t understand why I acted thus. It took the maturity of an adult to put things in perspective, and since then, rather than fight my feelings, I’ve always embraced preparing for the “what-ifs”.
It helps in no small way to reduce the shock of life’s uncertainties.
Right now, I appear to be weeping less and staring on with the knowledge that they have gone to a better place and that someday we will meet again.
To those of you out there who may be dealing with the loss of a loved one, I pray that the God of all comfort, console you in your grief and give you the strength to keep forging on with your lives.
Hope to talk to you all soon. Bye.
