I guess this my relationship series isn’t quite over yet. As a result of the various dimensions spoken on lately, I decided to map out a category on this site for easier access to them.

I know that most of you would be wondering why I suddenly veered towards this direction. You see, I’m trying to unburden from dwelling on very unhappy situations and although I know that you guys are actually here for me, it’s not something I want to blog about.

So, I spoke with a friend before writing this post and we were both giving our take on why it may be okay to accept meeting people online. By this, I don’t mean online dating sites. I mean being open to meeting people on social media platforms like g-mail, linked-in and the like. Her take was on the fact the sudden spike in the number of covid related cases was actually preventing people from going out these days. My take seem to be on the rate of crime related issues associated with this kind of means such as phishing, hacking and kidnap.

We all are born for relationships, just as the saying goes that “no man is an island”. Anyhow, at the end of the call I started to think of some of the ways that people tend to meet lifelong partners, and one particular avenue that seemed to stick was via introduction.

Now, would one term being introduced as the ideal situation? especially if after the union of the couple, the marriage starts to fall apart. In such cases, the intermediary would generally be seen as the initial cause, forgetting that both partners actually agreed to take the life-long decision.
Would it be right to say that this could be a leading cause behind so many unhealthy marriages back here?

You see, I tend to think that in such situations, the God-factor has clearly been removed, as many singles these days tend to have less hope and faith and as such take the driver’s seat to making things happen. It’s totally difficult to sometimes explain to a female single that has grown tired of waiting that God would come through in the end as she tends to assume the silence of God in the matter to mean that she may be doing something wrong. As such you’d find her going out of her way to find the right person which on many occasions ends up in more chaos than the initial unpleasant wait.

On the other hand, many of the male singles these days have become so discouraged of approaching ladies because of the negative feedback received that they also tend to think that the onus of meeting the right partner shouldn’t lie entirely on them as God intended – you know the passage in the bible that says “Whoso findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtaineth favor from God” Proverbs 18v22? Now I know that at this instant by clearly referring to this passage, some of you readers would want to stop reading but just hear me out first.

You see, I tend to wonder why God would put this responsibility solely on the man and I believe it dates back to the fall of Adam. You know when God questioned why Adam had eaten of the forbidden fruit, Adam put the blame on God by saying … the woman you gave me……in Gen 3v11-12.
God had clearly understood, that he had interrupted the ability of man to choose and as such years later when King Solomon wrote the book of Proverbs, he knew expressly that it was in the will of God for man to choose his life partner.

Now I know by this statement, you all may be saying.. Onuoma! times have changed. Yes I get that but if you recall, I noted in my first post when I started this relationship series that many times guys tend to settle for less by choosing “B” instead of “A” only for dissatisfaction to set in years later.
You see I believe that If a guy chooses to let down his guard simply because he feels defeated in his quest for the right partner, and therefore says to himself “Ok, I’ll agree to being introduced to my partner”, on many occasions it becomes a situation of “shopping for what he likes rather than what he wants” (please ladies forgive my choice of words here). I hope you all now understand my direction in this discussion.

Same way so, If a lady chooses to set aside her faith in the ability of God to bring the right partner for her, and makes a pointer on who she wants to be introduced to, on many occasions it ends up in an empty void because she has used certain criteria that unbeknownst to her wouldn’t qualify in her fulfillment and long term happiness.

Therefore, my point in my post today is this, Yes I understand that on many occasions the wait for a partner can be extremely difficult but you know, lack of hope and faith too tends to be just as worse. If God in his infinite wisdom created you the way you are “ladies” then I believe he has reserved that special person somewhere for you. However, one thing you must understand is that is that with God, one day is like a thousand years and a thousand years are like a day. Thus, it is imperative to be extremely patient. I am assured that he’s never late in his timing.

For the men, since God has set this responsibility as yours, then you can only achieve ultimate success with his guidance. It may be noteworthy to list some of the qualities you want in your partner and with prayer, relax and watch him steer the course of your path to her.

See me today, as being an instrument in removing this untold anxiety and fear that lurks at the recess of your mind concerning your destined partner. In the wait for him, ladies, choose to become a better person. Don’t rush into things simply because the majority are all doing it.
I believe that if the avenue of introduction is the means to meeting the right man, the decision would clearly be his and not yours. Hence, he would have admired you from a distance and would initiate that act and not vice versa.

Also, there is one thing I really would like to note here to intermediaries. Please try not to play God. If your male friend requests to be introduced to someone, don’t go downing the lady in question based on rumors and changing their mind, but I guess this may be another dimension to discuss in detail on another day. Until then. It’s goodbye from me.